Just back from a week in sunny Florida. Aaaah solar therapy! You might think FOMO has something to do with my Florida and it does in a way. It actually refers to a condition common to many with or without ADHD. The difficulty with committing to something often caused by Fear Of Missing Out. I find that those of us with ADHD can often have a greater than average dose of this. Our brain's need for lots of stimulation lead us to want to "do it all". If we commit to one thing it can lead to not being free to do another that comes along. This can result in missing out on opportunities because we didn't commit in order to keep our options open. I have long struggled with this and would marvel at those folks who would plan a vacations a year or even months ahead.
Realizing that I have missed out on some things and have annoyed more than one friend or family member with my inability to commit I decided to try to do it different. So over the last year or so I have been making plans, buying concert tickets well in advance, planning vacations and actually buying the airline tickets, saying yes a week or more out for weekend plans. How has it worked out? Well, I have had times where I had to let go of something that came along that I couldn't do because of previous commitment. That has led me to work on letting go and focusing on what I am doing rather what I can't. It has also allowed me the luxury of looking forward to and anticipating a fun time coming up. Something that is missing when one makes last minute decisions.
The one thing that I have to work on is checking my calendar now before committing to something. There is the problem of double booking when you make future plans and this has happened more than a few times. A topic for a future blog. Enjoy!
Realizing that I have missed out on some things and have annoyed more than one friend or family member with my inability to commit I decided to try to do it different. So over the last year or so I have been making plans, buying concert tickets well in advance, planning vacations and actually buying the airline tickets, saying yes a week or more out for weekend plans. How has it worked out? Well, I have had times where I had to let go of something that came along that I couldn't do because of previous commitment. That has led me to work on letting go and focusing on what I am doing rather what I can't. It has also allowed me the luxury of looking forward to and anticipating a fun time coming up. Something that is missing when one makes last minute decisions.
The one thing that I have to work on is checking my calendar now before committing to something. There is the problem of double booking when you make future plans and this has happened more than a few times. A topic for a future blog. Enjoy!
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