I'm not talking about food or diets I'm talking about activities and commitments. It seems that it's hard to find a balance between being busy and having nothing to do. I tend to over commit and end up feeling overwhelmed and then I pull back and end up feeling like I am spending too much time alone or watching too much TV. It's taken time to figure out how this happens and what I might be able to do about it. I finally realized the problem is that I say yes to everything. Not out of obligation (though that's how I end up feeling) but because of the H in ADHD I crave stimulation, can be impulsive and so many things interest me and I get excited about them(at least initially). Once I figured this out I came up with a strategy that works (sometimes) and a back up plan when it doesn't.
- Have some sort of weekly or monthly planner. This can be digital or an old fashioned appointment book ( I opt for a hard copy because I can visualize my schedule by seeing it in black and white.)
- When planning to do something or deciding about a request say "let me look at my calendar" and then look at your calendar. If you don't have it with you don't commit.
- Even if it sounds like something you would like to do don't commit if your calendar is full. Maybe you can rearrange or plan the activity for later when you're not so busy.
- If your ADHD has over-ridden your strategy and you find yourself over booked don't be afraid of canceling or rescheduling (with as much notice as possible).